Should I be worried about my bf's relationship with his ex?
July 27, 2012 10:35 AM Subscribe
I accidentally read an email from my BF to his ex GF, who is getting married on Saturday, which he closed with "I will always love you." Should I be concerned about his feelings for her?
posted by eliseb to human relations (80 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
My 32-year-old BF has had only two real GFs including me. He doesn't speak of his ex often, but I do know that she was pushing for marriage and he wasn't ready. I don't know if this is the only reason they broke up. The relationship ended 4 years ago. He has told me that they still call/email each other occasionally to catch up, which I’ve always thought of as healthy and appropriate.
Recently he used my phone to check his email and did not log out. I inadvertently read an email to his ex GF (I know, I know), who is getting married on Saturday, that wishes her happiness and closes with "I will always love you."
Should I be concerned about his feelings for her? That sentence,"I will always love you", just seems… too much. I have exes that I feel fondly towards, but this is something that would not cross my lips. I mention that he has had only two relationships (with a 4 year gap) in between because my mind is racing with thoughts of him being “hung up” on her for all that time and ultimately settling on me because she became engaged.
I did not log out of his email account. There are more emails between the two of them that I am struggling not to open.