I want both!
July 26, 2012 6:56 PM Subscribe
I've been offered an 18 month job 3000km away, where my partner lives. Everything sounds great except for leaving friends and family for 18 months, which is a really big deal for me. I'm really struggling to make up my mind, help me?
posted by deadwax to human relations (22 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
*I need people. I have a really good network of friends and family that I rely on enormously. I see people a lot and that is a defining characteristic of my life.
*Despite the above I'm super-shy and make friends slowly.
*Job and partner are in a small, fairly isolated, rural town. The culture is probably something I would struggle with, being very much a lefty city boy myself.
*The job would be enormously challenging (a good thing in my book), with long hours, leaving little time for much else (a less good thing).
*The money on offer is excellent and would probably enable me to put a large deposit on a house, come the end of the contract. Which I would love.
*Other offers of work are a little sparse at the moment, but there may be some good work coming up at home soon. It's hard to know though.
*My partner will accept my decision either way and has been nothing but supportive. She would like me to be with her but understands my doubts.
*The offer has come rather unexpectedly, arising out of a random conversation while I was visiting. Everything is moving faster than I would like - I was not considering moving at all in the next couple of years until only days ago.
Really, it's a very tempting offer, but leaving friends and community is a massive snag.
So my questions are:
How have people resolved similar conundrums?
If you have moved in a similar situation, and have a similar need for sociability, how have you coped? What worked for you, what didn't?