Loud Talker Talking Loudly
July 26, 2012 7:13 AM Subscribe
Why do I talk loudly when I'm upset or excited about a topic? And, how do I learn to talk more quietly when passionate or upset about something?
posted by livinglearning to human relations (8 answers total) 8 users marked this as a favorite
I have always been a loud talker. I come from a family of loud talkers. As a kid, I'd frequently get told to lower my voice. As a young adult, I still frequently get told to lower my voice. My normal volume is just a notch higher than most other people's volumes.
My voice is relatively pleasant, friendly, and polite based on reports from quality analysts at my workplace.
However, I have also been told that I talk loudly by people inside and outside of the office. Sometimes, people have to tell me to turn my volume down a notch which happens when I'm either upset or very excited about something.
I appreciate when people tell me to lower my volume, but at the same time, I want to learn how to do this on my own without others reminding me. There are certain times where I meant for a conversation to be between myself and another person, except my volume control problems basically result in several people hearing what was meant to be a quiet, personal kind of conversation.
My questions are: 1) Why do I talk loudly when I'm upset or excited about a topic? and 2) What are some helpful tips that I can use to control my volume primarily when I'm excited or upset about something?
I do not have a difficult time hearing others, so please omit that from any answers.