Advice for doing a best man speech for someone you hardly know?
July 23, 2012 6:23 AM Subscribe
Earlier this year I was asked by a friendly co-worker to be his best man. I accepted against my better judgement because I got the sense he had no one else he could ask. Now faced with writing an appropriate heartfelt (possibly humorous) speech I am at a loss.
posted by iheijoushin to Human Relations (20 answers total) 5 users marked this as a favorite
Earlier this year I was asked by a friendly co-worker to be his best man.
As one of the more outgoing members of my nerd tribe, I have been been asked to Best Man a few times and am comfortable with the duties this often entails. In this case, I didn't know the groom in question very well. But I got the sense he asked me because he didn't have anyone else he could ask so I accepted against my better judgement. (Sparing all the details, the last several years of his life have been very difficult and I've gotten the feeling he had to start over socially after his previous marriage ended.)
To make matters more complicated, I have met his wife-to-be three times. The two of them eloped a few months after they began dating, an issue that their respective families have mixed feelings about.
With our friendship being very fresh, and their relationship even more so, I don't have much to share in terms of describing their relationship, or any good stories or anecdotes to share about my relationship with the groom.
I am more or less at a loss. The first few drafts struck me as being too sermon-y where I just expounded on the value of companionship and love. I fear I may have gotten myself over my head with the best of intentions.
The three questions I put to Metafilter (along with any other thoughts you might have):
· Has anyone found themselves in this situation before? What did you do?
· How might one overcome not knowing someone well to provide a heartfelt (optionally humorous) speech?
· Are there any writings, authors, quotes, or blessings you especially love that you might be willing to share?
Thanks, MeFi. :)