Stalker or just socially inept?
July 22, 2012 12:11 PM Subscribe
About 4 months ago, a new guy moved in below me (I've lived here ten years). About 2 months ago the landlord gave me his (guy's) phone number (he plays music loud and I suppose landlord wanted to be out of the middle of it--especially when I call landlord at 2:30 a.m.) I've used the number maybe 3 or 4 times since then.
posted by Prairie to Human Relations (27 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
Yesterday it sounded like jet engines were taking off below me. I called and he said, "Oh is that too loud? I'm just watching the previews for Batman, we're going tonight." We talked for a second (I told him to wear a Kelvar jacket and he told me his brother, who he is going with, is a Marine. You should be OK, I told him.)
Last night the phone rang at 2:53 a.m. I did not reach it in time but saw it was him and called back. "Did someone here call for me?" "Who is this?" "This is your neighbor." "Oh, I am so sorry, that was a mistake." He is always polite and cordial when I call him. "No worries. Goodnight."
This morning I had three texts on my phone, all from him--
1. 2:21 Doon?
2. 2:57 Do you wanna snuggle?
3. 2:57 Sry for such a random question. I just fancy ya.
Becker deGavin's "The Gift of Fear" says no and cease and desist responses only let the stalker know how many "nos" get them what they want. (I'm paraphrasing).
I was thinking of a firm text back to him (But clearly he already has boundary issues repeatedly playing this loud music at 3:30!). Next I would tell the landlord about the weird messages in the middle of the night and that he (the landlord) needs to be the one calling him, not me. Even if I am waking the landlord up in the middle of the night.
Let me know if I can clarify. I am in the midst of a project and will check this at break. Thanks for all your input.