How to stop a trainwreck
August 2, 2005 12:50 PM Subscribe
How do i convince my mother to change her life?
posted by anonymous to human relations (12 answers total)
Al-anonfilter: My moms an alcoholic and im pretty sure she already hit her rock bottom 8 years ago or so. i moved from home 6 years ago and find ignoring the situation the easiest way to stay sane. i never call home because calls turn into me trying to convince her to change her life. since my other siblings moved out she has no one to take care of or live for (not that she was rather good at it before) so she has picked up a charity case boyfriend who is far less intelligent than her and who has been in and out of jail to boot. sibilings even said they would spend more time with her if she removed him from her life. and she chose him. news from home is never good. there is no money for rehab (again) and shes lost her right to drive so that issue has been out of the picture for a while (and jail didnt even change her behavior). i almost feel like the alcoholism is second to the zero self worth. so basically, how do you truly convince someone that certain aspects of their life (convict boyfriends, alcohol, 2 pack a day smoking addiction) are NOT getting them anywhere (when they deep down know it themselves)?? anyone have any similar experiences or sucess stories or is my family doomed?