Caregiving at a Distance
July 17, 2012 10:20 AM Subscribe
How can I get information about my mom's medical condition when I live in another state?
posted by ottereroticist to human relations (8 answers total)
My 71-year-old mom is in a Kaiser hospital in Northern California with a sudden health crisis involving low blood sodium resulting in confusion and disorientation.
Her long-term partner is a difficult person at the best of times, and especially now that the person who is her whole world is sick. I'm frustrated because I don't feel that I'm getting complete and accurate information about my mom's condition via her partner. Her partner is also trying to discourage me from visiting for reasons that IMO have more to do with her own introversion / misanthropy than with my mom's best interests.
My mom's partner is her medical decision-maker (they've filled out power of attorney and advance directives, though they're not domestic partners). I'm not trying to challenge that. I'm just trying to get accurate information and access to see my mom.
My questions are: Without having filled out a specific form to that effect, can I get information about my mom's condition? If so, what's the best way to go about doing that?
I hope that this is a transient situation and that my mom will be compos mentis again soon. What can she and I and her partner and the rest of the family do to help minimize friction now and during the inevitable future crises?