How to Sext better?
July 17, 2012 10:14 AM Subscribe
Help me "sext" better.
posted by pandorasbox to Human Relations (23 answers total) 18 users marked this as a favorite
I'm a little socially awkward, but I love sex, I've just always been bad at TALKING about it.
I've gotten a little better at asking for what I want, or otherwise communicating during sex, but outside of the actual act talking about it just seems... awkward.
Recently my guy was out of town and told me to "text him something dirty"
I made an attempt and the response was "we'll work on it"
I turned it into a joke and said "well, I'm glad you don't say that after sex, or we'd be having a lot less sex!" but I guess it kind of hurt my feelings.
Words like "cock" and "pussy" make me uncomfortable (and just don't sound nice.) and words like "penis" and "vagina" sound overly clinical. The best I ever have are things like "I'm horny" or "I want to rip your clothes off." Anything in-depth is super forced and feels awkward to me, and that comes off in the text I guess.
How do you deal with the awkwardness that is talking dirty, or sexting, and come off looking like you aren't super uncomfortable?