Two men- what to do?
July 17, 2012 9:43 AM Subscribe
Help me choose between the men in my life.
posted by commitment to human relations (42 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
I have a couple of men in my life. The most important are A, who lives in California and B, who lives in NYC. I live in NYC.
A is coming to visit NYC around Labor Day for three or four days.
A is my ex-boyfriend, who I had a strange relationship with in another country for about a year. We had a falling out in a different country from the one we were living in (we went on vacation together) and I ended up being pretty messed up for a couple months afterwards. A drinks a lot of alcohol. I do not. A and I talk on the phone almost every night.
B is the guy I'm seeing but we are not exclusive yet. B recently had a girl visit him in NYC while I was away on vacation and told me about it after the fact. He informed me they didn't "do anything." I see B almost every weekend and sometimes even on the weekdays. B does not drink a lot of alcohol.
If A was living in NYC, I wouldn't even have to ask a question. I'd choose A (I'm not sure if that's a good thing or a bad thing).
tl;dr A is coming to visit me (or NYC, it's not clear). I plan on being intimate with him (I'm already intimate with B). Should I be intimate with him? Should I tell B (before or after)? Help. And sorry to bother you all with this trivial nonsense.