Thanks but no thanks.
July 16, 2012 7:30 AM Subscribe
Need help on how to avoid eating someone's food.
posted by KogeLiz to Human Relations (36 answers total)
So, our neighbor um, guilted us into taking her and her two kids to a large theme park before they move next month. She asked my boyfriend if we had season passes and for some unknown reason, he decided to tell her we did. (we do). Of course, this led to her asking us if we could take them because her kids are crying all the time because they are not having fun this summer.
Background (so you can see what I'm dealing with):
She and her family moved in about a year ago from India. Her husband is working out of state right now. She doesn't have a car because she crashed it three times in 3 weeks (once into our parked car - which is how we ended up knowing each other). There are zero kids in our townhouse complex - and the kids don't have friends.
She knocks on our door often and catches on our way out to ask us to bring her somewhere or to bring her kids somewhere. I understand it is tough for her because of the kids, lack of car, lack of friends and/or family around. But since we are complete introverts and afraid of confrontation, this became out of control to us and we stopped answering the door.
So, in the last few months, she repays us by bringing us homemade food. I have some ridiculous anxiety issues about eating other peoples food (some restaurants I will eat at, though) and I cannot eat Indian food because it's usually too spicy and I don't like whatever seasonings are used. I told her this, so she started bringing me non-spicy food (still spicy to me). My boyfriend can handle it but he said after he saw her kitchen (giant mess and gnats), he will not eat the food. So basically, she brings by this food and we end up throwing it away.
So, she and her kids are geared up for this trip to the theme park which is about an hour away. She is adamant about making a bunch of food and bringing it with us so we can all save money (plus, other than fried dough and french fries there won't be any vegetarian food there). I told her I wasn't sure if that was allowed (I'm pretty sure it is - no one does bag checks there) and she said she would just leave it in the car and we could leave and eat in the parking lot. I should mention it's about 90-100 degrees out for the last month.
We offered to handle bringing the food - but she said that she wanted to. I also know she is very picky about what she and her kids eat.
I really can't just say, "Look lady, we don't like your food"
I'm afraid if I eat the food, I will get an upset stomach. Also, I am not a good actress.
What else can we do to get around this situation?