Does the hat make the man?
July 10, 2012 5:14 PM Subscribe
I started dating a guy who is great but his fashion sense is ruining my buzz. Ill fitting clothes, sort of a "Scarface" aesthetic, age-inappropriate hats--you name it. And I haven't even gotten to shoes that I can only describe as . . . puzzling and vaguely medieval. What should I do with this?
posted by anonymous to human relations (48 answers total) 5 users marked this as a favorite
Both of us are in our mid-30s and have been dating on and off for four months. We're respectively financially comfortable and professionally accomplished. I have a job that requires me to show up to work "dressed," and I think I have pretty good taste and make the appropriate personal and professional efforts. He works at home and can generally be found in shorts and a t-shirt. I have no problem with that. It's when he gets "dressed" to go out that he runs off the rails. It's to the point that I don't want to invite him to work functions/receptions for fear of what he'll wear.
I have no doubt that I'll immediately be jumped on for being shallow, because in many respects this guy is great, but I'm willing to take the risk. I'm not looking for GQ--I'm just looking for sport coats that don't billow and that don't look like they are from the 1980s, jeans that fit, shirts not made out of shiny materials. Can you help me figure out if I should even approach this? How can I provide gentle feedback/guidance about this? Or even can I? It's too early to buy him clothes, as I've seen suggested in other answers here, and he gives no indication that he is unhappy with his wardrobe. Asking anonymously because he knows how much I love the Green. Thanks, Mefites! Don't judge me too harshly!