Am I being too judgy?
July 8, 2012 7:07 AM Subscribe
How do I deal with my reaction to a friend confessing she has cheated on her fiancée?
posted by travellingincognito to human relations (34 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
I'm organising a hens party for a friend who has been engaged for some years.
Friend has given off signals that she has cold feet.
A few weeks ago at a club, friend got drunk and flirty with a guy. She was about to go home with him but we (mutual girl friends and I) stopped her. She then admitted that she has been unfaithful to her fiancée.
Mutual friends have stepped in to help her sort out the issues leading to the infidelity.
I am uncomfortable with the idea of organising and participating in a ritual designed to celebrate an event the bride-to-be is not so keen on.
However I feel I should stick by her as a friend, even though she did something stupid and will be doing something stupid (going ahead with the wedding when all issues have not been resolved).
I feel as if I'm being overly judgmental. Am I? How do I resolve this internally/externally?