Is my boyfriend controlling or am I making this into an issue when it's no big deal?
July 7, 2012 2:00 PM Subscribe
My boyfriend tries to tell me what to wear, he says it's his preference but insists that I follow it. I told him that it's controlling and inappropriate however he sees it as completely ok. Am I overreacting?
posted by CheeseAndRice to Human Relations (237 answers total) 19 users marked this as a favorite
My boyfriend and I were supposed to go out today, we were going out to eat with his dad and his dads friend for dinner. This is not the first time I'm meeting his dad. We live in Florida where it's hot so I wore shorts, the shorts were not booty shorts or anything and was normal length, he said it was too short and told me to wear pants. I told him it's too hot for pants but I changed into longer shorts. Then I wore 1 to 1.5 inch heels with the shorts however he told me to not wear heels and that he didn't like it. I told him its the style nowadays to wear heels with shorts and that these heels were not even high heels however to avoid further argument I changed into flats and he was happy with that. Let me just say that even with the heels my outfit was completely decent and appropriate and looked sophisticated.
Then during the car ride I started getting mad and telling him that he was being controlling in telling me what to wear. I reminded him of last year when I wanted to take him out for his birthday and I wanted to look nice so I wore a dress with heels but he insisted that I not wear heels and I had to change to flats there too, he said that he didn't want to look like he was with an escort. My dress was not revealing that day at all and was respectful! He told me that he didn't like the combination of shorts or dresses with heels and that I was his girlfriend so I should understand. I got so mad that I told him to turn the car around and drop me off.
I'm at home right now and he just texted me "do you get my point?" and "you look at it as controlling for some reason while I look at it as I hold you to a certain level if awesome". The he called me but I ignored it. I'm kinda sad Bc I was looking forward to hanging out with him today and now I'm second guessing myself whether I got upset over nothing. Does he have a point? Is this not a big deal and Im blowing it out as an issue?