Help me get over being excluded from a bf's family event.
July 5, 2012 4:38 AM Subscribe
I wasn't invited to my boyfriend's family function, and I can't seem to get over it. Help me.
posted by quodlibet to Human Relations (35 answers total)
I've been dating my boyfriend for three years. He has two siblings - a brother and sister. His sister lives in another state. His sister got engaged recently and came home one a trip with her partner's family to the beach nearby. My boyfriend was invited one night down with his parents to celebrate their engagement. His brother and his partner (= married) were invited down the next night.
I am friendly to his sister. We socialize at all other family events (I am invited to every family event sans this one). Sometimes we chat online. I have even gone, by myself, and stayed with her and her partner in their state while I was there on a work trip. The only issue I've ever had with her came a few months back as she gave some advice to her brother that was taken out of context from another conversation she and I had about finances that was one of the reasons we broke up for a few days.
I can't help but feel excluded. My boyfriend tells me I'm crazy for feeling that way. I'm not happy with him for not "taking my side" on this. He has a tendency to white knight his family even when they do something wrong. Also, I don't know if maybe there's a bigger issue with his sister I should address. I haven't said anything about not being invited and about being hurt from her comments from before. I basically ignored her on the 4th (I get the feeling she ignored me too) when the extended family was all together and felt petty about it all day. Help me find a way to move on from this.