Career vs Maybe Baby
July 4, 2012 8:26 AM Subscribe
Woman navigating career and family planning - stay comfortable in a good job or take the risk in a startup? Apologies, a bit long and ranty inside:
posted by anonymous to Work & Money (14 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
I have been offered a job in a small startup. I truly believe in the product, I think it has loads of potential, it's in an industry that I'm personally interested in, and the team itself seems great. The position itself is pretty senior (relative to the size of it) and I will be personally involved in driving the direction. However, their current offer only is slightly more than my current salary with none of the benefits. They are also offering equity options but as far as I'm concerned that's a nice possible bonus, it doesn't help me now.
As it doesn't have any of the benefits that my current company has, as an early thirties married woman I am most concerned about maternity leave support. If I stay, I can get 6 months with an option to extend to a year (this is in the UK). I am not pregnant, but we want to be in the near future and the increase in pay at the startup is not enough for me to save towards any sort of comparable leave and I don't even know if taking 6 months off at a startup is possible - I think that could suck for everyone.
I like my job now but I don't see a long-term future with it. My boss would basically have to leave for me to get promoted and I don't really want their job anyway. I would be staying in it for the benefits, and let's face it, a baby may not even happen. The startup is exactly the sort of place that I want to be in the next stage of my career.
So, the question:
I'm not sure how to bring this up to the startup in terms of offer negotiations without freaking them out. I also need guidance on how to convince my husband on how we could make it work. He really wants one of us to be able to stay at home with this hypothetical baby for 6 months. If it matters, he makes about the same as I do at a more established startup. Financially we are currently comfortable but we couldn't afford for only one of us to work without maternity cover. We'd be happy if he could be the one to stay at home for 6 months but that's just not a reality.
Personally I am also struggling with the unfairness of it all, as it seems my career ambitions are being dictated and possibly thwarted by my ovaries. If a baby was not in the picture at all, this is a no brainer, I would go. But we do want a family eventually and I'm starting to hear the stupid clock ticking. So if it turns out that I don't take this job because it "doesn't make sense", how do I not become resentful over it?