Is it okay to renege on a date that you didn't know was a date?
July 2, 2012 12:15 PM Subscribe
Is it ever okay to renege on a date if you didn't know it was a date in the first place?
posted by iLoveTheRain to human relations (55 answers total) 12 users marked this as a favorite
A few days ago someone I don't know very well invited me out to an event. I said maybe and told the guy I'd get back to him once I knew my schedule. I was under the impression that this was to be a group outing, so I asked a mutual friend about when she'd like to meet us there and she revealed that she wasn't going because this is really a date and that this guy has been smitten with me since we met a year ago. (I haven't seen this guy since that first meeting.) Apparently he's been planning this for a while, which is sweet and everything, but I have no interest in dating this guy whatsoever.
Is it going to be bad form to reneg on the outing now that I know what I know? I've been pressured into going on dates with people I don't like before and I really don't want to do it anymore. What can I say to this guy so he understands?