Got a great new job - why do I feel so sad?
June 28, 2012 9:51 PM Subscribe
After eight years at an idiosyncratic dept at a major university, I got a "golden ticket" job at a hot new start-up in my field. I am thrilled. But I am also deeply sad about leaving my friends and colleagues. I mean, deeply, deeply, crying-about-it frequently sad. (More sadness inside!)
posted by Fierce clam to human relations (9 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
Some of this grief is to be expected: in the last 16 months, I have lost my house, my marriage and my community (I moved). Work has been a constant - I have made good friends and I am well-liked and respected. But the money and opportunity I need now aren't there for me. I feel I need to keep moving forward and this new job will allow me to do that.
Most of my co-workers are thrilled, but some of those I am closest to have become inexplicably distant in the past two weeks. My good bye lunch felt like a wake! Most of the meetings I ran were far more entertaining.
I'm missing the obvious here. What is going on? Why does a good thing feel so bad? Why are my good buddies being so quiet? Why am I crying all the time? My fear is that all these relationships are really over. How can I maintain them if people have already started pulling away? Or should I just let it all go, like everything else?