June 25, 2012 1:23 PM Subscribe
Looking for constructive ways to deal with anger, post end of relationship.
posted by anonymous to human relations (15 answers total) 11 users marked this as a favorite
I am in therapy, looking for ways to deal until I meet with my person. I am feeling in control to the extent that I will not act out on feelings of anger (meaning no emails, phone calls, anything).
But I am feeling poisoned from the inside out. Nightmares and a feeling of deep self-loathing upon waking up are the key features of Shit that is Not Okay in my Head.
I think part of what's going on is that a) I had an abusive parent who raged destructively and never acknowledged their bad behavior so b) The model I have in my head for expressing anger is severely flawed; c) I hate anger in me, perhaps consequently, so I can't really feel anger w/o a deep sense of self-loathing.
I am glad this relationship is over, because I won't need to deal with the bad behavior any longer. I won't have to see the person again. That is pretty celebratory. Yet -- the nightmares I had about my mother last night and the horror I feel upon waking really need to get gone.
I'm isolated, socially, so there's not a network of people to turn to.
So -- what can I do, as a firmly covered pot with an ugly cesspool of feeling inside that seems to be getting worse, not better? Any suggestions on just getting through the days/nights?