Ex remained close with best friends. I can't deal with it now.
June 22, 2012 11:59 AM Subscribe
Ex-gf continued to stay friends with my closest friends. I haven't come to terms with it.
posted by blizkreeg to Human Relations (26 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
About four months ago, I went through a nasty breakup and my less than a year long relationship (there was one 2-mo long breakup in that timeframe too) came to an end. Amidst that first breakup, my now ex moved and lodged herself two blocks away on the same street where I live (and in the same block as two of my best friends, a couple).
After our breakup, she moved on within two weeks and found someone new and I guess they're in a relationship now. As if that wasn't shocking, she continued to stay friends with the couple. The husband is someone I've known for a decade and his wife half a decade. She knew them for 6mos or less. And I believe they all know each other/hang out now. It makes me jealous.
All this I feel has subconsciously affected our friendship. I no longer feel the same for my friends. I find it tragic. My friends are now moving to a new city and I don't feel the sadness I would have if this hadn't occurred. It's just not the same and I can't come to terms with all this. I also feel sad that my friends never showed the empathy and concern when I was going through the breakup. I've briefly spoken to them but I just think they never understood the gravity of the breakup/relationship. Apparently, the ex still rants about me to them sometimes and I find it highly offensive. I believe they defend me but still.
What do you do when life throws these curve balls at you? Do you just let go of these negative forces and feel saddened (such is life) or do you confront them head on? I don't like the weakness this generates in me.