Some people want to be liked, whereas others want to be admired. What causes this?
I was reading about Maslow's hierarchy of needs
. Two of the fundamental needs in the hierarchy are esteem
(respect of others, achievement, confidence) and love/belonging
(friendships, family, etc.).
It occurred to me while reading this that some people seem much more driven by one over the other:
- On the one extreme, there are people who crave the company and affection of others, even if that means sacrificing respect or admiration. They tend to become submissive or make themselves appear flawed in order to endear themselves to others.
- On the other extreme, there are people who cite an insatiable desire to be respected or admired, even if it means alienating their peers and becoming notorious. This category includes many famous people (e.g. entertainers, business magnates, politicians).
I'd like to learn more about this phenomenon. Are there established names for the two personality types? What causes a person to be one way or the other?