Nobody likes you when you're wasted
June 20, 2012 1:29 PM Subscribe
Is there a tactful way to tell a friend that they are not pleasant to be around when they drink too much, an occurrence that happens every time we see them?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (35 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
I have a very nice, relatively tight-knit circle of friends. We frequently get together and take turns hosting. One of the couples in this group, Greg and Ann, consistently get really drunk, which no one else does. Greg has repeatedly gotten so drunk that items in my house have been damaged, and has been wholly unapologetic when asked to please take better care. My boyfriend has said that he would really rather Greg not be invited back in our house. Another friend mentioned they feel similarly. Is there a tactful way to ask them to be mindful of how much they have to drink? They are nice people, but their heavy drinking is causing me to be irritated by them, and I’d prefer not to let it get to a place where I don’t like them at all. I don’t mind not having alcohol around, but I feel like that’s not the right long term solution when they are the only ones who are drinking more than one or two drinks. Ideally, I'd like to cause as little friction as possible among all of our friends.