Should stop going to my new therapist?
June 18, 2012 5:34 PM Subscribe
Should stop going to my new therapist? Longish details inside.
posted by anonymous to health & fitness (19 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
I'm a man in my thirties and I suffer from lifelong, untreated depression and anxiety. It is very difficult for me to talk about myself and my problems with others, but a month ago I decided I needed to get over that and make a serious attempt at getting therapy. At the end of my second meeting, my therapist accused me of acting inappropriately towards another therapist in her office.
When I arrived at my first session, there were two women standing and talking behind the enclosed reception area. I sat at a couch facing them and waited until they noticed me. One of them handed me a new client questionnaire to fill out, then sat at the reception desk. I remember that I asked her a question after a few minutes about the form. I then handed it to her and she told me to wait for my therapist. After the session, my therapist walked me back to the reception area and with the help of a now different woman at the reception desk, got an appointment date with me for my second session. I left. I only spoke with the two different women at the desk, and my therapist the entire time I was there.
So two weeks later, at the end of the second session my therapist tells me that she needed to ask me a question. She said that a female therapist coworker of hers had asked her to ask me about what had occurred the day of my previous visit. This therapist said that some man was talking to her very flirtatiously and was "hitting on her." The therapist apparently didn't know the name of the man she was talking to, but thought that it was me after looking at the appointment book.
I was mortified. I told my therapist that it wasn't me. She said something like, "you're sure? Oh, ok, see you next time." Since I was emotional from the therapy session and just really shocked, so I just kind of fled. But I wish I would have asked more questions to figure out what happened, because I absolutely didn't talk to anyone in that way.
As I drove home I thought there is no way that I would feel comfortable going back to the office. I feel like there's a suspicion and creepiness that has attached to me that would make it even more difficult for me to be open with my therapist.
The problem though, is that there are really limited choices for therapists or mental health counseling in my area, and I am paying out of pocket so far for my treatment and I'm reluctant to "start over" both financially and emotionally with a new office. I say emotionally, because I did feel comfortable there.
So my question is, can I do something to repair this? I feel as if I want to prove my innocence. I've considered writing a letter to my therapist and her supervisor just to "clear the air." But I also think that maybe I'm just over thinking the whole thing, that it is silly and that I should move on, but it has really been bothering me. Is there anything I can do beyond just finding a new therapist?Thank you in advance.