I like to move it move it!
June 17, 2012 6:55 PM Subscribe
After nearly six years, I've decided to pull up stakes and move out of Boston. Tell me how to get excited about taking this leap, and, well, where to go!
posted by Sock Muppet Acct! to Human Relations (28 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
I've wanted to leave Boston for a while and while it feels like the right decision, I'm having a lot of trouble justifying it to my practical side. Currently unemployed, and I figure I may as well be unemployed in a cheaper city. I'm also kind of stuck in a rut and feel like I'm at the point where I've got to either commit to being here for good or move away. I'd like an adventure and setting up in a new city is pretty exciting! However, its also anxiety inducing.
My entire social network is here. I'm afraid I'll be totally alone and then possibly have to move again by the time I'm starting to make friends (I'm applying to graduate health professions programs at the moment and will *hopefully* matriculate next year.) I've done the move to a city where you know nobody thing before but I was 22 and it seemed a lot more acceptable then. I'm 28 now and it feels harder to justify floating around like this (to myself, to current and future friends.)
So: how do you deal with this type of fear? Where its a self-imposed decision that may turn out very poorly - how do you get yourself to be 100% on board? The obvious answer to my dilemna right now is: stay put, work finding a job/getting into school/etc. and *then* go. I've told myself this for the last few years and though I've tried to find jobs and programs in other regions, it hasn't worked. I feel like the timing will never be perfect, so I may as well do it now when I have no real obligations. But its frightening!
Second part of my question is: where do I go? I have pored over the other AskMe moving questions endlessly and think Seattle is my best bet, having been there once and loving it. BUT I'd appreciate new insights. Here's what I'm looking for:
- Natural beauty, activities outdoors
I'm in love with Boston during the summer. The beaches, free concerts (classical music outside? amazing!), the nearly perfect weather before the humidity sets in. The winters are rough for me, though I appreciate that its incredibly sunny here even if it is freezing. Somewhere a little more temperate would be great. I grew up in the southwest, so I can handle dry arid heat. Humidity + heat is more difficult. Having lived and dealt with SAD in Chicago, I'm afraid of what the gloomy winter skies would bring in Seattle.
- Welcoming to transplants
The Seattle freeze seems awful. I'd like to be able to make real connections...if this means anything, several of my close friends here in Boston are not actually from here. Most are from the midwest or have spent a significant amount of time there, and I guess I just click with those folks more than anyone else.
I'm South Indian. Friends joke that I'm whiter than they are and I frankly don't do anything all that Indian-y anyways but I do *not* like to stick out for my...er..brown-ness. Its a delicate balance of feeling like you're sticking out like a sore thumb (where everyone else is white - this happened a lot when I lived in SoCal) or lumped into a category and therefore passed over (this happens a lot in Cambridge, where there is a large Indian population. I wonder sometimes if I don't get approached by guys because they think I'm only into Indian guys. This happened less in other parts of the city. I'm pretty outgoing and I don't think this is all in my head.) So diverse to the point where my Indian-ness if a non-issue, I guess?
I do drive my car in the city quite a bit even though Boston has wonderful public transit. I happen to not be near a T right now. I'd like to be close to transit options that are fast, efficient, and central (aka don't require 3 transfers to get to the heart of the city.) I do realize a lot of this would depend on my neighborhood, too.
Oh and a huge bonus would be proximity to a large body of water, preferably an ocean.
So, yes, that's a lot of querying in an AskMe, but I'd really appreciate any input because I'm currently vacillating between extreme butterflies-in-stomach excitement and incredible insomnia-inducing anxiety. I'm trying to meditate and deal with practicalities to get a little more even keeled about all of this but any insights from you all would be awesome!