June 15, 2012 9:19 AM Subscribe
Help me deal with my middle - either through weight loss or learning to cope.
posted by kat518 to health & fitness (21 answers total) 10 users marked this as a favorite
My stomach has always been the part of my body that makes me most self conscious. For most of my life, it seemed like that's all it was - me being self conscious. But now, unfortunately, my middle is growing and getting the better of me.
I don't keep a scale in the house or measure myself because I thought it would lead to unhealthy habits - I didn't want to put myself in a place where I would feel happy or sad because of a number. But instead of my weight, my size is bothering me. I saw a picture of me running (true story) and it nearly made me cry. I looked like a blob with legs.
Specifically, a year ago, I was about a size 8/10. Now some of my size 10 clothing feels too snug. As does size 12? I've just about given up on shopping for pants, skirts, shorts - anything that's form-fitting. I spend most of my days in knit dresses and jackets or cardigans.
I work out about 4x a week. I started a thing with stickk where I try to work out 5x. That has happened maybe once or twice but I get really close. I mostly run or do yoga though I've been doing less running and more yoga lately. I struggled to work out at all over the winter - I had a lot going on at work - but I've been trying to work out more seriously for a few months now and I'm not really seeing results. However, my health generally seems fine - I haven't had a physical lately but I went to my OB-GYN a few months ago and she said everything was fine. Every time I get my blood pressure checked, it's good.
I've been more stressed out lately over the last year. My husband quit his job to work on a start-up so I worry about money. I had some health issues related to sleep. I have a graduate degree lurking in the background that I sure would like to finish someday. I've thought of doing therapy. But this gut is really bothering me.
I feel like I put on maybe 10 lbs within the last year or so right in the waist and even though I've been trying to be more committed to working out, it is not going anywhere. I've contemplated joining a gym and working with a personal trainer.
I think about doing things like taking laxatives or the stupid things advertised on TV like Hydroxycut but that doesn't seem healthy and I think the point of this is to get healthy. Right?!
I'm trying really hard not to take this personally and behave in a healthy way. I don't count calories, don't obsess over things. I don't keep track of everything I eat (but maybe I should? I generally don't think I've overeating). I try to eat when I'm hungry, not when I'm bored. But the fact that my clothes don't fit is just getting me down. I want to look professional for work but I feel like my suits are simply too snug. I can buy new suits but then I feel like I'm spending too much money.
TL; DR - Why don't my pants fit and what can I do about it? How can I lose weight in a healthy way?
PS - Please be gentle, Metafilter. I'm trying to be gentle with myself because I don't think it's effective to tell myself that I'm a blob person. But I don't think much has been effective so far.