Elderly grandparents and young children
June 13, 2012 8:19 PM Subscribe
How do I best manage a visit to my elderly/dying grandparents with my young children?
posted by Lulu's Pink Converse to human relations (12 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
I will be traveling cross-country with my husband and three young children to visit my elderly grandparents (88 and 90 - my childrens' great-grandparents), who are not in good health. My grandmother will, in fact, be going into major surgery the day we are scheduled to leave their town. It will be difficult enough for me to manage what will most likely be saying goodbye to my grandparents. How do I make this OK, and maybe memorable, for my kids, my grandparents, and my dad (who will also be there)?
My children are almost 9, 5.5, and 17 months. The older two have met my grandparents, though my 5-year-old doesn't remember it. My grandparents have never met the baby, though they have seen pictures and I've talked with my grandmother on the phone. My grandfather suffers from dementia, with occasional periods of clarity.
I know we want to take lots of photos - though the reason my grandmother is having surgery has caused some dis-figuration of her face and I want to be sensitive to that - and just enjoy the time, but is there anything else we should do/say/arrange? How do I say goodbye without actually saying goodbye? Please, hivemind, help me make this visit OK for everyone involved.