When to send the baby gift?
June 11, 2012 8:15 AM Subscribe
Question about giving baby gifts in a difficult situation.
posted by anonymous to human relations (19 answers total)
A good friend is pregnant, with a very-much wanted baby boy. This couple has struggled with infertility and miscarriages, and so the fact that this baby seemed to be progressing right along was incredibly welcome news. At some point in her pregnancy, the baby was diagnosed with a heart defect; it is my understanding that he will need surgery within 24 hours of birth, and then again later; if the first surgery is sucessful, he'll have a very positive outlook, but there is a 60/40 chance it will be successful.
However, her water broke early, and she has been in the hospital for some time. She has reached the point where a healthy baby would probably be fine; they are working on keeping him in utero a few more weeks.
She missed her baby shower because she was in the hospital. I just checked the registry; almost everything is still on it.
what's the protocol here? Should I send a gift? Wait until the baby is born? I mean, they'll need at least a few things when he gets home. I feel like they are being in some sense robbed of their excitement, so I want to send something and say "we're excited for you..... we are praying for you..." I'm at a loss.
If there's other ways to show support, I'm open to ideas - unfortunately she is in a hospital on the west coast, and I'm in the midwest. so just visiting isn't an option.