How to get my coworker to back off?
June 10, 2012 2:40 PM Subscribe
How do I get my coworker to back off and remain in the friend zone that he so desperately tried to put me in? Now that I don't want him, he wants me! He never told me about his girlfriend, brought her up one day, lied and said he broke up with her, and now he's in my face. I don't see him in that way anymore though. How do I get him to see that?
posted by lastcall17 to human relations (18 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
I became cool with a coworker of mine and he and I were fond of each others personality. He is normally the type of man I would not go for but I liked him anyways. I started hearing whispers of a girlfriend but he told me he didn't have one so I believed him. After a while of not seeing him, he brings up his girlfriend out of the blue. I was shocked and confused about why he lied. He invited me out with him and another coworker shortly after, but I was lead to believe it would be a group thing. It was a small group, not the large one I had anticipated. But it was a good thing because I started meeting guys at the place we visited. I go there now all the time and I have even brought my girlfriend's. There are always good looking guys and girl mixing and mingling. I have met men that I have been attracted to and they have been attracted to me. One in particular has caught my eye... I try not to stare too hard ;).
My coworker tells me a week ago that him and his girl broke up and he subtly starts coming on to me. I was confused at first, but I knew he was tripping when he tried to diss the man that I am interested in. He asked me where was I going and when I told him I was going to go where my eye candy is at he snapped at me and said that he is a better man than eye candy. He doesn't even know him! I like him as a friend, I did like him more than that at first. But that bomb he dropped on me about the girl defused the entire situation. He always approaches me or calls me over to him to talk. Today wasn't the first time he's mocked a man I like or am interested then. He said my long forgotten love of the past was the third string of his college football team and sorry as hell. He's never met my former boo.