Facebook's Skewing My Sense of Real Friendship
June 9, 2012 11:10 AM Subscribe
I'm a supportive, loyal, and giving friend. My friends do not treat me the same way.
posted by iLoveTheRain to human relations (45 answers total) 28 users marked this as a favorite
With the advent of Facebook and other social media avenues, the ways in which people portray themselves to other people has obviously changed. One thing that I've noticed over the past few years (okay, maybe the last decade even) is that everybody else seems to have more supportive friends than I do. They have friends who throw them birthday parties unasked, cheer for them at performances and graduations unasked, and friends who actively seem to miss them in ways my friends never have. I am, in short, jealous as hell and feel very sad because I am that kind of friend to other people, but I don't seem to have anyone in my life that reciprocates.
What's the deal here? Are other people actually that supportive of each other or is this sort of a constructed reality that people can now design for themselves with a few tweaks to their profile page? I feel so lonely and unappreciated, and I'd like to change that by seeking out people who will be as much of a friend to me as I will be to them, but I don't know that this is something that is actually achievable.