Please tell me about your toddler's difficult questions.
I am the parent of an 18-month-old who is just starting to use words, and I'm reading the [really great] book The Emotional Life of the Toddler
right now, to try and understand where he's coming from with the no's and the tantrums and such. There is a short mention in it of a difficult situation that the toddler presents that I realized I have NO IDEA how I would handle.
The example in the book is: "He loves being naked. He discovers his penis and is enamored of it. He notices and comments when he has an erection: 'Mommy, my penis is big. Touch it, right here.'" (p. 89)
The book does not say how the parent responds. I think I would probably just say "Not right now" or maybe "That's yours and you can play with it in your room" or something, but I honestly don't know what the best response would be -- I want my son to grow up with healthy sexual attitudes but I'm suddenly afraid that I'm going to freeze and say the wrong thing because I haven't anticipated these types of situations.
So what I'm looking for is true stories of awkward questions or situations posed by your toddler, what you did, and if you feel it was the right or wrong thing and why (and if it was the wrong thing, what you'd do differently after having thought about it).
My goal is just to be a little more prepared for these things as my toddler becomes more curious about the world and some of the things in it that are harder to explain and navigate.