Suddenly Charged with Caring for Parents in an Accident who Probably Are Driving Me Insane.
June 7, 2012 6:57 AM Subscribe
I'm suddenly caregiver for my mid-70's parents after a serious car accident, and I'm completely lost, and while I'm sympathetic, I want them the heck out of my house as soon as possible.
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My mom and her husband had flown in for my daughter's graduation weekend and as they were driving in my sister's car to meet me at a concert, my mom went through a stop sign and they were hit by a minivan...both were taken to the hospital.
My step-dad has a broken scapula and broken ribs, my mom (who was driving) has a concussion and some bruises. They were released after 2 days in the hospital and came home with me (I have 3 kids at home). Docs now saying at best guess, they can fly home in 2 to 3 WEEKS.
My question: what's the best way to take care of them without going completely insane and saving my kids' sanity?
Even under typical circumstances, my mother is difficult...a hypochondriac, very critical of me and my kids, very anxious, with imaginary dietary needs and imaginary aches and pains. Stepdad is the same...also pretty much always in a state of self-proclaimed agony.
So now they're both staying at my house (my sister and her boyfriend just moved in together and he doesn't want them there) and they are not being easy. Soup is too hot, too cold, bed is too hard, too soft, Schweppes Ginger Ale, not Stop and Shop, PT woman was an idiot, etc.
I've set up my bedroom for them, arranged daily visiting nurse and PT visits, and my sister will try to stop by when she can. My older kids have jobs and will be around for coverage when possible. But there will be times when there's no coverage. YANMD but is that okay? Can I just get out sometimes before I lose my shit completely?
How do I help them get better quickly, get them out of my house, and not lose my mind?
I may be forgetting important things...right now I'm very stressed out and probably not thinking clearly so if I need to answer questions, let me know.