How can I help my partner feel better after a random assault?
May 29, 2012 12:29 PM Subscribe
Some random jerk threatened my partner in public a few days ago and he's still pretty shaken, and can't stop thinking about it. What resources can I offer to help him cope?
posted by rhiannonstone to Health & Fitness (18 answers total)
We were grocery shopping this weekend, in separate parts of the store, and a middle-aged man (who looked like an overgrown frat boy, and may or may not have been drunk) assumed classic shoulders-and-arms-up threatening bully pose and rushed directly at my partner, shouting. My partner moved a safe distance away and shouted back, something along the lines of "What is wrong with you?" This jerk is a total stranger to both of us and my partner had done nothing to incite him. When the guy caught me taking a picture of him (just in case) as he was leaving the store he and his friend laughed and he said he was "just trying to have some fun." Then while we were walking through the parking lot to our car he tried to cut us off in his giant black SUV. We both shouted back at him and I took a picture of his car, though I didn't get the license plate.
I'm used to brushing off random harassment like this, but this is the first time something like this has happened to my partner and he's having a hard time shaking it off. He says he can't stop thinking about it, and is very concerned about running into the guy again. What can we do to help him recover from this?
We've talked about going to the police (the jerk's behavior constitutes simple assault without battery where we are), but he doesn't think it'll be useful or help him feel better. He's generally averse to therapy, though it's something I think he'd consider if this continues to affect him any more severely. Do you have any other suggestions for helping him stop replaying this in his head and feeling better about how to handle it if we happen to run into the jerk again?