I just asked my husband for a divorce and he is in complete denial about it.
May 29, 2012 6:20 AM Subscribe
I just asked my husband for a divorce and he is in complete denial about it. It's like I never asked. How do you tell someone you want a divorce when they won't listen to you?
I say "asked" but I really was completely emphatic that I want a divorce, there is no hope of the marriage working out, and that it is over. He seems to be ignoring that fact completely. We can't move just yet but we're in NYC's ridiculous rental market so if we want to move we need to get started ASAP.
Complicating this is that I am a stay-at-home mom of one toddler. I have some savings of my own (thank god) and have a job offer lined up, but there's no way I can just move out to a new place without his knowledge or cooperation. My income will be so new that I'll need his help to get a lease and I want us to remain living within walking distance of each other for my child's sake (and would prefer us to have as much joint custody as is practicable with a toddler).
Should I sit him down and start throwing logistics at him? Wait until I find a new place and then let him know? (seems like a jerk move, except that I ALREADY TOLD HIM, plus like I said I want to live near each other).
I have called a divorce lawyer. Should I tell him that? Wait for advice from them?
Of course a major reason why I want a divorce is that he rarely listens to me or takes my feelings seriously, so this is funny in a sick way.