Estranged friends sending dead cat memorial cards...
May 25, 2012 9:59 PM Subscribe
A few months ago, I severed ties with a few people I know through the internet. Today, I received a card from the SPCA saying that these people have made a donation memorializing my recently deceased cat. What is the appropriate way to respond?
posted by triceryclops to human relations (31 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
I made the decision to stop talking or interacting with them because of a few heated discussions on facebook. I was annoyed at their displays of insensitivity toward minorities and women. You know, things I've become more perceptive of since I started reading metafilter and dating a feminist. After a few arguments with them, I made a commitment to myself that I would try to shed the dead weight of their friendship. I also happen to have met these people through an online community, so it's not like I would have to see them in person, which made the severance a little easier.
Since making that decision, my cat became gravely ill and died within about 2 days of her diagnosis with feline leukemia. It was a very tough thing to deal with. She was my first cat and was barely two years old when she left, way too early. But I'm a better person for having known her.
Well, I guess my ex-internet friends caught wind of this and even though we were not on speaking terms, they made a donation to the SPCA in her honor and had a card sent to my address.
It's like they did not respect my decision to reject their friendship and they used this very personal tragedy to score some brownie points. I was very comfortable with the idea of not talking to them for a long long time for perfectly legitimate reasons, and now this just makes it very uncomfortable.
Am I validated in feeling uncomfortable? Should I do anything beyond hanging the card on my fridge?