I have a tricky situation involving a past acquaintance that I'd like to get some opinions on
May 23, 2012 10:51 AM Subscribe
I have a tricky situation involving a past acquaintance that I'd like to get some opinions on.
posted by starpoint to human relations (14 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
In my case, an acquaintance from school I knew years back is trying to contact me, saying he might move to my area, and I'd rather not get back in touch. When I knew him, he was very negative and was not pleasant company. I had pulled away from him, and it's been a few years since I saw him last. There's a chance he's changed, but I highly doubt that. It's a risk I don't want to take.
We had been in occasional "how are you" email contact, and I was OK emailing him knowing he was far away. Plus, he can come across as upbeat and friendly in emails, but in person it's a different story. It's been more than 5 months since I last emailed him. I haven't responded to the recent message he sent me about moving to my area, and now he's trying to contact me on some social sites. I feel horrible about not responding, but I really don't want to get involved with him again. In the past, he spent a lot of time complaining, making negative comments, acting angry (to the point of it being scary), and so on. I spent a TON of time stressing about him when we were in school, and I don't need that right now.
From his perspective though, it might seem like I'm suddenly blowing him off. Our last emails (even though it was 5 months ago) were friendly after all.
My main conflict is that my gut is telling me to stay away, but my conscience is saying it's terrible to ignore folks.
Anyhow, does anyone have any suggestions or ideas? What would you do in this situation?