Am I too passive under stress? How to fix?
May 21, 2012 4:31 AM Subscribe
Should I be someone who takes more action when I'm under stress? If so, how do I go about becoming that person?
posted by EatMyHat to human relations (9 answers total) 11 users marked this as a favorite
Ok, so right now I am under stress - I got out of a job I hated to pursue a nerve wracking new venture, and I am living on a fixed budget in a tight economy.
Things have been fine, but my new, cheap accommodation turned out to be much worse than anticipated. We've had no end of problems with leaks and power cuts, the landlord is cheap, the building manager is lazy and the police have other things to do. There were red flags from the beginning and other people from the same building have moved out, but I have stayed. It sucks. I hate it here. But I still stay. I took a holiday, lived in lovely holiday accomodation (felt like paradise, did not want to come back) but I had to come back, and now I am still staying here. I know I should move out, but honestly, I have done almost nothing about making it happen. I feel like I can't be bothered moving or trying to find a new place.
I think I am often a person who, under stress, tends to put up with the situation rather than try to fix it, maybe waiting for the stress to pass. I guess I find it easier to control my own emotions and lower my standards than I do to be proactive and take action. I don't want this to mean that I end up getting exploited or miss out on good things. I don't want to become apathetic and lazy. But somehow I always seem to prefer doing nothing over doing something.
So my question is do I need to change this tendency to be passive in the face of stress? And if so, how?