So Confused Right Now.
May 18, 2012 8:46 AM Subscribe
How do I deal with being a platonic relationship?
posted by DuchessProzac to human relations (15 answers total)
Basically, I have had strong feeling for my partner's sister since shortly after we met a decade ago. I was sure these feelings were mutual but I was too scared to act on them in case I was in the wrong and a whole can of worms was opened.
Anyway, about 6 months ago, things seemed to be getting heavy between us and I finally came clean to her and whilst she saw me as a sister the emotional connection kept getting stronger and stronger between us and there has been plenty of non-sexual flirting going on.
Last night however, I risked a sexual comment which might as well have been me molesting her grandmother's corpse. She told me outright not to say things like that again. That she loved me but she'd feel uncomfortable around me if I said things and after quite a discussion it seemed that our relationship is truly platonic; everything is there but the sexual stuff.
A great deal of the trouble stems from her step-dad who, whilst she says he didn't molest her, he lusted after her since she was 13 years old and that me saying what I did acted as a trigger.
I have never been in such a strong emotional relationship with someone before, let alone one that didn't lead onto something more physical, so just how do I deal with this?