Back together or bust?
May 16, 2012 4:00 PM Subscribe
My fiance's parents moved back in together after almost 17 years of being divorced. I know it's really none of my business, but still I'm curious: has anybody else had parents that got back together after a long time apart, or has anybody done this themselves? How'd it go?
posted by Rocket26 to human relations (19 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
To be clear, I'm not even sure if they are "back together" or just living together again as companions. They are both in their 60's.
In some ways, even though I've spent a lot of time with each of them, I feel like I don't know them very well. They are private people in some ways, though also incredibly kind and generous (especially his mom.) They've always seem like they have a lot of issues, but have done OK in spite of those issues.
I do know the divorce was fairly traumatic, and sudden (dad left mom, spent all the money, took years to dig out of, though they all turned out OK; mom got another career, dad sort of floundered around and it was never clear why he left in the first place, but is OK)
Neither remarried or were in other serious significant relationships (his dad dated more than mom).
Then, his dad had to have surgery over the winter and stayed with mom while he recovered. Next thing we know, they have moved in together. Fortunately, this has not been dramatic yet for anyone. My fiance is basically like "They are lonely. I'm glad they have each other again" as long as they don't rope him into it emotionally. He admits that it's every divorced kids fantasy to see their parents back together, too, so he's not sure how this is going to play out.
This just all seems... so strange to me! 17 YEARS of divorce, and now they are living together again? (Also this is funny timing because fiance and I are getting married in 5 weeks).
Has anybody gotten back together with someone after years apart? Or known anybody who has? How did that go? I feel really skeptical about this, but I also want to respect them, and also want to hope that maybe they can find love, 17 years after the fact.