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May 14, 2012 8:26 PM Subscribe
I am moving from behind the computer to in front of the computer, how do I learn to speak up during meetings?
posted by alfanut to human relations (9 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
I am a programmer for a university. As we take on more and different work with outside collaborators I find myself being more in front of the computer than behind it where I feel comfortable. I am being asked to attend meetings with other universities, colleges and partner facilities. My role in these meetings is as a technical adviser to Dean's, CIO's, and Security Officer types. While I am confident in my abilities, it's my speaking up that is the issue.
During meetings I often sit and listen. I may be consulted on a technical issue, but generally I keep silent. It's not like I have nothing to say, I have tons of ideas, thoughts and suggestions, it's just opening my mouth and letting the words out that is real difficult.
I get anxious and nervous. Unsettled. I often let the conversation finish without speaking up only to send a post meeting email saying "hey I thought of this really cool thing after the meeting" while in fact I never spoke up during said meeting.
Personally, I am very shy. I am not fond of being the center of attention. However, when I do finally get talking the anxiety diminishes rapidly. Once that barrier is broken, I am good.
Help me find tools and techniques that will help me overcome this anxiety and allow me to better express myself in meetings.