help me do this casual hookup thing?
May 13, 2012 5:26 PM Subscribe
looking for some NSA encounter while travelling, willing but clueless: help me do this casual hookup thing?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (19 answers total) 6 users marked this as a favorite
I'm visiting Berlin and Amsterdam in the next couple of weeks, and for a bunch of reasons to do with new life goals which include broadening my horizons, I'd like to experience a discreet genuinely no-strings-attached sexual encounter with someone I'll never see again. I have never done this before, and I have no idea where even to start. I'd appreciate some frank and basic tips. Assume total ignorance and naivety. Relevant details:
- Im mid-20s female looking for male
- I have never picked a guy up, only been in long-term relationships
- I'm attractive, good dancer, socially confident, I just never did the whole random hookup thing
what I want to know are things like
- specific places in Berlin and Amsterdam I might go to safely hook up with guys in their late20s-30s. I like nice bars with good vibe, dancing optional but not against it
- how to maintain discretion eg do I lie about my name?
- actual logistics of the hook up. please excuse my total ignorance. do they come to my place? do I go to theirs? What if they come to my place and refuse to leave?
- how to avoid STDs
- how to stay safe? I don't want to end up in an ugly situation, drinks spiked, lost kidneys etc
- anything else the more experienced of you can think of for a casual sex rooky
I thought of craigslisting this but most of the w4m personals seem like BDSM/fetish types, which I'm not interested in. I'm also generally creeped out by craigslist. just looking for some regular fun. much appreciated!