You are in a healthy, happy relationship: What are your fights like with your significant other?
I'm trying to figure out what fights are like in healthy, happy relationships.
My friends talk about having a fight with their boyfriends, but it's hard for me to tell what that's like on the inside. So what's it like when you fight with your significant other, especially in the early stages of a relationship?
Do you have recurring fights that never get resolved? Is that a sign that the relationship, however awesome, is doomed? Or am I being a perfectionist?
Do you have a rational process of conflict resolution, or do you work it out emotionally? How much crying/distance/etc. takes place? How do you know what is acceptable grumpiness?
(I've read these threads
and they were helpful, but I'm wondering what the fight looks like. What is realistic?)
I know there's no way to generalize and this varies from person to person. But I grew up without good role models and television/film relationships are not a reliable guide (who knew?). So I want to know what it's like for *you*.