Have I said too much?
May 3, 2012 2:36 AM Subscribe
I've recently begun hanging out with a new group of friends, which is great. However, I find myself having a lot of anxiety after spending time with them, and worrying that I might have said something that will cause them to judge me or not like me.
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (10 answers total) 12 users marked this as a favorite
My friends do not seem particularly judgmental (and in fact, actually seem quite non-judgmental), but I guess I worry that I start talking and end up revealing too much about myself, too soon, and then panic afterward wondering why I've said what I've said. This situation is exacerbated by drinking, and I often wake up in the middle of the night after a happy hour and go over everything I've said, wishing I could unsay it, even if I logically know that I haven't said anything more worse than anyone else did. My question is two fold, I guess. Is this feeling normal? I don't remember this happening with other friend groups, although it's possible I just forgot, or that life circumstances were different at the time so I didn't have as much to reveal, or maybe as much to lose. Should I learn to try to be more careful so that don't have any regrets about what I say? Should I continue being open, and trust that things will very likely be just fine? Some combination of both?