I've never really moved before. I went off to college, sure, but that was in the same state, just a few hours from home. This is a different ballgame. I'll be leaving Iowa to live somewhere else for an extended period of time and this will be a first. I could use some help in preparing for this and advice on what to do when I get there.
After tons of advice from this thread
and this thread
(and thanks again for all the support and suggestions), I've made a lot of changes in my life over the past month and gotten over the fear that was holding me back from a lot of decisions.
I've not only started writing again (almost every day; I've missed a few days here and there) but I've also started working on breaking through my tendency to mask my emotions like anger or frustration, which have made me into a pushover and caused me a lot of internal fury. I've been doing some exercising. I've been taking a lot of time out for me. I've been reading. I've been meeting people and socializing, going on dates. And most importantly, I've been cutting out the people in my life that I find toxic and hazardous for my well-being. I've also been unmedicated for the past two weeks, after deciding that I wanted to know what my 'normal' is before I go back on medication (and honestly, I haven't noticed any difference versus the medication I was taking).
While working through all of this, accomplishing all of this, I've also come to the decision that in a month, I'm getting the hell out of this state and out of the Midwest, which I've wanted to do for years. On the 21st, I'm flying down to Austin for just over a week to scope out the city. I have a good friend down there who is willing to put me up for a couple weeks while I find a place, and my grandmother is willing to spot me for rent until I can land a job, so the runway is clear.
I know that I'll need to be living alone; I don't do well with roommates. It causes a lot of paranoia and insecurity for a lot of weird reasons. I also know that, like I did last summer, I'm going to have to make finding a job my job. Last summer, I'd regularly 'work' an eight hour shift at a coffee job, filling out applications, sending them off, tweaking my resumé. And I'd write and read. That's what I'll have to pick up again once I get there. And yeah, some people have told me to wait till I have a job to move down there but I've made excuses to get out of things I fear for long enough. It's time to do something.
But I've never really left my safety net, so to speak. I don't know what I need to do to prepare for such a move, what I need to do when I get there, what things I need to keep in mind or questions I need to ask. Hell, I don't really know that much about Austin to begin with (except that it's full of a hell of a lot of interesting things/people/culture). So any advice y'all could give would be appreciated.