April 29, 2012 9:01 AM Subscribe
How do you get over ten years of limerence?
posted by anonymous to human relations (20 answers total) 25 users marked this as a favorite
I have been in love / limerence with a woman for ten years. We were lovers for the first two of those and then work took us to different parts of the world. It is classic limerence but has never faded despite numerous relationships since then. We reconnected recently online and she expressed the same feelings over the same period of time. The news brought my current relationship to an abrupt end, hers continues (although they are working at it). Today ee decided to cease all further contact for the sake of her relationship efforts and my sanity. I'm devastated at the thought of never seeing, hearing from or being with her again. Cliche of cliches, life has now lost all purpose, the length of time this has gone on exacerbates my pessimism about ever moving on. I've tried to tackle my feelings through therapy, medication, applying rationality, cynicism, philosophy and alcohol. Nothing stops the deep and profound feelings I have for her and I'm at a loss after all this time at what to do. Even when I manage to erase her from my daily thoughts, I dream about her at night. How do I let this woman go, for ever, and end this pain?