Hardcore methods for e-mail blocking
April 25, 2012 6:19 PM Subscribe
Looking for elite e-mail blacklist tricks to block a stalker.
posted by steinsaltz to technology (16 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
I have a determined and intelligent stalker. This person blasts my domain with harassing messages. I have tried the official methods for e-mail blocking, but found them unsatisfying. Typically, as on GMail, you filter addresses into the Trash. But then they sit there for days, and I don't want that, because I check my Trash for other messages.
I have also tried the "fake bounce" method, which just caused this person to send taunting messages for months along the lines of "Since you've blocked my e-mail, I can write anything I want! haha."
What I dream of is a hardcore solution. Maybe something at the server level. Something that will kill these messages before they even reach my inbox. Routing them through some UNIX/procmail thing somehow !? I will learn how to build a new mail server if that is what it takes.
I'm on Dreamhost using Google Apps on my business domain. But am willing to try anything if it will provide blacklisting. It looks like Google Apps for Business stopped including this, when it stopped offering the mail package Postini.
Is there some blacklisting server I could route the e-mail through? Some PINE thing like in college, where I can run a script that deletes spam, before it reaches me? Or does one of the major Web mail services just do this?
The closest thing I have found to what I want is a vestigial Bounce feature in Apple Mail, but relying on that forces me to retreat from GMail (and therefore GChat). God, what I would not give to insert a nice "Delivery Status Notification (Failure)" somewhere in the pipeline, preventing me from ever knowing about it.
If someone knows of a server, somewhere in the world, that will let me do this, I would thrill with gratitude.
(I have read that bouncing is considered bad practice for dealing with spam, but this isn't spam. I can't switch e-mail addresses, either, for business reasons. And while previous threads have recommended calling the cops, the local police have told me they can't get involved unless there is a "specific threat of bodily harm," and this person has dodged a restraining order multiple times.)