Need help from SO during a stressful time
April 19, 2012 3:14 PM Subscribe
Having a very stressful time lately, and not sure how to ask for help from the SO.
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Here's the current situation: I work 40+ hours a week, on a project that is very fast-paced right now. I work 10+ hours a day, without breaks. It's not like that all the time, but for the past week & for the next week, that's just how it is. My SO and I live in a vacation hot spot. I work at home, in a field not related to the area at all (I can do this work from anywhere.) SO's job is seasonal, and hours are next to nothing at the moment. SO also has a creative gig that pays well when the gigs come up - once every few months. SO has a ton of free time. I have absolutely none at the moment, and usually evenings and weekends when work is normal for me. I still do ALL the cooking. I do most of the housework too. SO just doesn't cook. Doesn't know how. Not interested in learning, hates it, etc. etc. We are trying to save $, so eating out is not possible everyday. But I feel it's all on me, and I've often expressed how stressed this makes me.
Recently, we've had a number of visitors here. SO has been in bed for 6 days straight, not working with a cold. I think that's a bit extreme, given that I just got over the same cold and didn't miss a beat. I'm sympathetic, but SO's condition is not bad at all - some cold meds clear it up to nothing. It is just a common head cold. So now, all the stress that comes with visitors is all on me, and I'm also working non-stop. I've broken down 3 times over the past 3 days with stress - crying hysterically, shaking, etc. etc. SO gets defensive, tells me to stop stressing, then goes back to bed.
How do I make SO see that I really, REALLY could use a little help, kindness or consideration? I'm about to run away from it all!