how do you stop caring what other people think?
April 18, 2012 6:35 AM Subscribe
When you have very low self esteem how do you brush off negative feedback?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (11 answers total) 21 users marked this as a favorite
I recently had someone very, very close to me who has been my biggest champion and whose opinion I highly value tell me abruptly that they had lost faith in my ability without much explanation. I was crushed, and have been unable to bring myself to work on anything creative since.
I had a similar experience about a year ago, when I was feeling down on my looks, foolishly asked some strangers for their opinion and was told I was ugly. That sent me into a deep depression for about six months.
I am feeling the same urge to withdraw into myself now. It’s been a week and I’m still having trouble functioning. I know intellectually one person’s opinion shouldn’t matter much to me, but I am having a hard time feeling that way. I doubt myself so much about almost everything that when I receive harsh criticism it confirms what's already in my head. My skin seems to get thinner rather than thicker over time. How do I stop caring and start believing in myself?