Breaking up is hard to do
April 9, 2012 3:49 PM Subscribe
I'm ending my marriage. How do I do it with kindness?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (25 answers total) 7 users marked this as a favorite
My husband is a kind and loving soul, but he refuses to participate in our life together or contribute to our household. I'm pretty sure he's depressed, but he refuses counseling.
He's also been lying to me repeatedly over the last few years about very important things and my trust in him has been shattered.
I've been the sole earner for several years, not because the job market is bad here, but because he won't look for work. He went to school for a while, but dropped out half way and pretended to keep going for months before I found out.
He whines when I ask him to do housework, despite being home all the time. What housework he does do is done half-heartedly. Our sex life is non-existent, not because he doesn't initiate, but after all the lying and apathy, I don't find him attractive anymore.
Frankly, I feel like his mom, not his wife.
It's time for me to end the relationship. It's the hardest decision I've ever made and my heart is breaking over it, but it's the right thing to do. I want a partner I can depend on and enjoy life with, not a dependent to drag along behind me.
I've never had to break up with someone for whom I still care deeply. How do I do it with kindness?