What can I expect with an unconventional name change?
April 6, 2012 6:31 AM Subscribe
I'd like to legally take my spouse's last name. Difficulty: I'm a guy; we've already been married for 10 years. I have professional licenses, clients and a [albeit not very well-developed] reputation. Has anyone done this? What are the pitfalls - personally, professionally, logistically?
posted by moammargaret to Human Relations (10 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
This will be done purely for personal reasons. I want a fresh start - trying to rise from the ashes of rather crippling depression - and this will give me a lot of comfort. As a bonus, the new name will be more common and I can enjoy some amount of google anonymity. I'd also use the opportunity to ditch a shortened nickname and revert to my full first name. No children involved, if that's relevant.
- Is there a double standard for men who take their wife's name?
- What is a polite and nondefensive explanation I can give my employer, while maintaining some sort of privacy around the reason for my decision?
- What are the choke points in the bureaucratic process, in seeking future employment, and anything else involving a background check? (Nothing bad would show up on the old name, but I'm worried about raising suspicions.)
- (Extra credit) Can I convince my father that this isn't about him?