Is it normal for a woman to begin feeling invisible in her thirties?
April 4, 2012 11:42 AM Subscribe
Is it normal for a woman to begin feeling invisible in her thirties? Please excuse the fact that this question might come off as totally narcissistic and a little crazy but it's been something that has been on my mind a lot lately and I was hoping to get some perspective on the situation.
posted by thelastgirl to society & culture (48 answers total) 29 users marked this as a favorite
I am not a conventionally attractive female, I guess you could say my personality might dictate what's attractive for me more than my looks. I am not overweight, I am healthy, I am stylish (I think I am at least I could also be delusional) but I have never been the kind of girl who has gotten by on my looks. At 35 I look the best I have ever looked in my life and feel great which is why I am baffled by what appears to be occurring now that I have reached my mid-thirties. I have felt a sense of invisibility to other people that feels completely foreign and strange to me. I notice people seem to bump into me more, not look my way. Men never check me out anymore (I am married so I am not looking, but it's nice to have a bit of attention from the opposite sex on occasion, I am only human after all), even other women don't seem to see me and walk into me. Has anyone else experienced anything like this starting in their thirties? Men, do you typically not check out women in their thirties? Is it only naturally to look at women under thirty? Ladies, do any of you relate with this question?
Again, I get that there is no way to pose this question without sounding like an asshole so I apologize in advance, I just want to get some input from a collective brain :)