How to be more arrogant
April 2, 2012 10:59 PM Subscribe
How to be more arrogant
posted by curious-mind to Human Relations (37 answers total) 9 users marked this as a favorite
I know the first thought crossing your mind is "Why would you want to be more arrogant, that's a negative trait"
However If you'll allow me to make my point, I believe that for a young man especially when it comes to attracting women being confident is just not good enough.
I have noticed in many places (social circle, work, clubs etc.) that it was the guys who were slightly more than confident, and borderline arrogant who seemed to hold women's attention.
I am 25 years old and I've noticed times when I've falsely portrayed an image of arrogance and noticed women like me more.
Here are two articles that drive home my point:
Now that I've made my point my question really boils down to changing how I feel now to being arrogant.
Confidence is belief in yourself, arrogance is belief in your superiority to others
Right now I feel like I am normal, I am not the best at anything in a realistic sense, there are many things that I am good at. However I know there are people who are smarter, sexier, richer, funnier etc. than me.
I don't walk around feeling superior to people, smarter than them, better than them etc.
However I have a co-worker and all the ladies love him, they stop by his cubicle and give him attention. However he is also arrogant when he talks to you, you get the sense that he thinks he is better than you and his choice of words and behavior puts out this energy that he is superior.
Naturally based on what I've seen happen in my own life and reading research if you can call it that, women like slightly arrogant men.
But in all reality when it comes to my co-worker, other than being in great physical shape I dont see how he can justify to himself that he is great when he is really average. He makes the same amount of money that I do and I know for a fact I have a better education than he does. He is not stunningly handsome or exceptionally witty.
Yet he always places himself above people in value.
How does a person get to being that way.
I realize that in all reality unfortunately human beings, men and women are drawn to people who shout their accolades at the top of their lungs sort of speak.
My question is when I really just feel average inside how do I go to feeling arrogant?